Grandparenting: Not For The Faint of Heart

Emotional Health, Spiritual Health

Grace hugging her grandson, Ethan

My view of grandparenting changed completely when I became one!


The famous mantra “We get to give them back at the end of the day” that I’ve heard many other grandparents say is a myth.


When The nurse on the other side of the phone said, “It’s a boy!” on May 12, 2016, I was very disappointed!


For months, we were expecting a baby girl.  All the signs pointed to a girl.  What happened to the much-anticipated baby girl?


Then I held him in my arms!


It was strange. Suddenly, I was in love with this unwelcome baby.  The strong emotion that I don’t remember feeling for Joanne when she was born.   The rush of love that flooded my heart was dizzying.


I never thought I could love anyone on earth as much as I love my grandson, Ethan.


The kind of love that could move mountains single-handedly.  The type of love willing to sacrifice my very life for his.  The kind of love that comes from a deep appreciation for God’s grace and bountiful riches contained in this little human.


How faithful God is to choose us as Ethan’s stewards.  The trust and confidence He showed picking our family when He could have picked any other family more deserving, more capable.


It was both exciting and scary.  


I wasn’t a great mom to Joanne.  Her upbringing was not typical in many ways.  I didn’t raise her in a godly home.  That was a huge mistake!


God, however, would not be deterred.  


He gave Ethan a godly home.  Godly parents and godly grandparents.  Ethan started his life knowing Jesus.


I believe this is why Ethan is able to weather the loss of his mommy and his papa (Doug).  


Knowing he will be reunited with Joanne and Doug for eternity is the hope that knowing and trusting in Jesus gives.   Knowing they are waiting for us in heaven is the truth that no one can debunk.  The precious blood of Jesus guarantees it!


Ethan is going to be eight years old on May 12, 2024.  He is strong-willed and opinionated, with a very strong personality.  I guess when you’re born into a family of strong personalities, you become one.


The five years Doug spent with Ethan were the best five years of his life. He loved and doted on Ethan, and they spent every moment together.  


There was a lot of struggle after we lost Doug and Joanne.  I believe that more than the losses, the worst pain that I suffered was being separated from Ethan and not seeing him.


I won’t go into the details, but it was emotionally draining, heartbreaking, and hopeless.  


We were very close, Doug and I, to Ethan. The threat that I won’t ever see my grandson again was like a knife thrusted and twisted in my heart turning it into mince meat.


I couldn’t bear to think I would never be able to see this face again!

Grace's grandson
Grace's grandson

But for God..

He was the Miracle worker.  Faith can move mountains.  Jesus said:

“He said to them, “Because of your little faith. For truly, I say to you, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.””

‭‭Matthew‬ ‭17‬:‭20‬ ‭ESV‬‬

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About Grace
Hi, I’m Grace. I’m a Clinical Aromatherapist, Face Reflexologist, and AromaDermatologist helping women of all ages feel confident in their health and beauty again. Through my complimentary Skin Analysis + Discovery Call, I lead women troubled with their physical, emotional, and spiritual health to regain their health and beauty. Find me on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube.

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